大学英语：grip n.1.紧握,紧夹; 2.掌握,控制

painful a.1.痛苦的; 2.费力的

rephrase vt.重新措辞,改用别的话表示

to apply for 申请

day to day work 日常工作

to take the trouble to不辞劳苦,费力

to put oneself in somebody's place 设身处地

to one's advantage 对某人有利

to ask for 1.请求,向...要; 2.寻找

in hand 手头上有

to make sure 1.查明,弄确实; 2.确信

at a disadvantage 处于不利地位

to turn down 1.拒绝;2.调小或调低;3.翻下